"The women I work with don't need to be fixed. They need someone who actually understands what they've been carrying, and why."
I’m Nancy,
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About Me
I'm a Licensed Clinical Social Worker with 18 years of experience working with women through some of the most painful and disorienting seasons of their lives. I specialize in relational trauma and attachment wounds. Specifically, I work with women who grew up without consistent love or safety, learned to protect themselves by shutting down or over-giving, and now find those same patterns showing up in every relationship they try to build.
Most of the women who find me are not in crisis in the obvious sense. They function. They show up. They take care of everyone around them. But privately they feel exhausted, anxious, or quietly convinced that something is wrong with them. They've had the same relationship play out differently with different people and can't figure out why. They give more than they get. They stay too long or leave too soon. They want closeness and it terrifies them at the same time.
That is not a character flaw. That is an attachment wound. And it is exactly what we work on together.
My Story
I don't just understand this work professionally. I understand it personally.
I grew up without the kind of love and stability a child needs. I was passed from home to home, and by seventeen I was on my own. For years I carried the belief that if the people who were supposed to choose me didn't, there must be something fundamentally wrong with me. Maybe I wasn't lovable. Maybe I wasn't even capable of love.
It took years of real, honest work to learn that wasn't true. I had to take down walls I had spent a lifetime building. I had to learn to stop shutting down and start saying what I actually felt. I had to learn that needing people wasn't weakness, and that trusting again was something I could actually do.
That experience is why I do this work. I know what it feels like to sit with that question, what is wrong with me? And I know what it feels like when that question finally stops being the loudest thing in the room.
I want every woman I work with to know that nothing is wrong with her. That she is lovable. And that she is worthy of the love she has been looking for.
My Approach
The women I work with often come in carrying questions they have never said out loud: why am I like this, why does this keep happening, why can't I just feel safe with someone. Those questions are exactly where we start.
Many of the reactions you're experiencing are not signs that something is wrong with you. They are responses you learned a long time ago, when you needed them. The anxiety, the shutting down, the over-giving, the way you brace for people to leave. Those patterns made sense once. They just haven't updated yet.
In our work together, we slow down and look at where those patterns actually came from. Not to blame anyone or relitigate the past, but because once you understand the root, the present starts to make a different kind of sense.
Some sessions we talk about what happened. Some we talk about how it's showing up right now in your relationships, your thoughts at night, the moments that feel bigger than they should. We move at a pace that feels manageable to you.
Over time, the work focuses on understanding your patterns rather than fighting them, rebuilding trust in yourself, learning to share what you're feeling and ask for what you need, and creating relationships that feel safer and more honest, starting with the one you have with yourself.
Professional Training
My work is grounded in attachment theory, relational trauma, and nervous system regulation. I integrate Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, Polyvagal Theory, and somatic-informed approaches to help clients understand not just what happened, but what it did to how they move through the world. This work goes deeper than coping. It's about understanding yourself well enough that things actually change.
On a personal note…
Outside of my work, I live a fairly ordinary and quiet life. I spend a lot of time with my family, take walks and hikes when I can, read, and start most mornings with coffee. My dogs are usually close by and they are often the best reminder I have to slow down and be present.
I share this because therapy can feel intimidating. You're meeting with a professional, but you're also meeting with a person. I care about creating a space that feels warm, steady, and real. You don't have to have the right words before you come. You don't have to show me a polished version of yourself. You can come exactly as you are, even if that means unsure, overwhelmed, or quiet at first.